So many women now days think that the main goal, the highlight of their life is to get married and have kids. And that’s very stereotypical. Now don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that having a family is bad. All I am trying to say is that there are many other things that women can call goals too. Like being successful, being a president, doing charity or simply travelling the world.
I fall into that category of girls who didn’t dream of her wedding day or husband. Hence why so many people get a bit surprised when they see me aw’ing at cute children. It’s like they think I am immune to cuteness. I find kids adorable and being a mother is ONE of the most wonderful things in life. However, young women shouldn’t be pestered and pressured to be one. The main goal in life is to be happy. If being a mother makes you happy – it’s wonderful! If not being one and hustling hard is that makes you incredibly happy – do it!
Your goals in life should be whatever YOU feel passionate and happy about and not what your family members, people around you tell you or want you to do. It’s completely fine to never get married and travel around the world with friends, alone or whatever. It really is. You have a right to choose how your life is going to go.
My goal in life is to be 100% happy. And travelling, being successful, doing good things for other people, inspiring, motivating them are what makes me that happy. I will be working hard to achieve all of that and if by doing that I will land myself a husband and family, then it’s great! If not, it’s nothing to be ashamed of or feel bad about. Getting a family isn’t my ultimate goal. And if yours aren’t too, don’t be afraid to seek yours! Screw those “when you are going to get married?“, “why don’t you have a boyfriend?” questions and work for your goals. Do it because it makes you happy. In the end, it’s the most important task we have. To feel unconditional happiness.
I guess, that I am trying to say is that if you do not want to get married at the certain age or at all, don’t feel bad about admitting it to yourself and to others. It is completely fine. You should do things that you want. Motherhood and marriage shouldn’t be classified as a must task of life. Yes, it’s a wonderful thing and maybe is very special to others. But this is to those out there who didn’t put ‘marriage‘ and ‘mother’ in their to-do list of life. Do you, be happy and screw those who criticise your decisions. It’s your life, not theirs.
What are your goals in life?